Is it F%$#ed up of me to not let my gf of 6 months move in with me?
She’s 22. I’m 28. She is in between apartments for about two months due to lease distress. She’s got a excellent job. I don’t have a job. I still support myself through part time work right now. My budget is kinda tight. I still take her out and treat her as I would want to be treated. We just returned from a week vacation at the Atlantic Ocean on Tybee Island.
I’m just against co-habitating until at least an engagement. Neither of us is ready for that anyways.
Any advice from girls and guys is welcome. Brutal honesty is also appriciated. My parents sugarcoat everything enough for me.
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no- 6 months isn’t that long and if you aren’t ready you aren’t ready.
if you are not ready you are not ready..i know ive dated my boyfriend for 4 months before we went in together, but we both were having financial difficulties…and we both felt like we could handle it. So we went in…
but you cant fight what doesnt feel right to you..trust your gut
hell no…don’t let her go in, your not ready and you know it. and another thing maintain the relationship but don’t neglect your financial and proffesional life…find a balance between the two and exploit. Once your more financially secure then focus the attn. on strengthening the relationship. 6 months seems way too small for me
6 months is a bit quick but if you know you are REALLY into eachother might as well get started on the inevitable. Thing is you gotta be sure you really dig her because once she’s in there yer stuck. Also unless you are really into eachother co-habitating is hard because you’ll be in eachother sh*t ALL the time…
It’s your house man…you can let anyone in it you want. You are well within your rights to not let her live with you if you don’t want. That is your space and you don’t have to share it until you’re ready
u shouldnt let her go in.i dont care how much money she makes.it changes when you go in with someone.tell her she can stay the night a few times a week.
I reckon you already answered your own ? by stating that you do not believe in co-habitating.
I suggest you speak to your g/f and clarify that you are sympathetic to current residential situation, but suggest that she look into staying with one of her girlfriends, or maybe a relative (sibling, cousin etc). You are unemployed, your p/t work isn’t going to be enough income to cover the increase in utility bills (water, gas, electricity). Clarify to her that just b/c u don’t want to live together, doesn’t mean you don’t like her. If she can’t know & respect your feelings about co-habitation, then she isnt the right girl for you….
6 weeks, 6 months, 6 years…it doesn’t matter. Your space, privacy, living conditions, financial matters are yours to deal with, delight in, be miserable with, work out on your own at your own pace. There is nothing worse than sharing something with someone that you can’t even figure out.